Friday, November 26, 2010

That Lovin' Feeling

I read the best marriage advice the other day. For you married folks, do you ever feel like you or your husband are a little distant or separated from each other at times? I know we do.

We can get so busy taking care of the everyday things and tending to the little people in our house that we'll sometimes realize we haven't kissed or hugged each other that day. Sad, isn't it?

Well, I was reading this post on mckmama's blog and she gave some great advice from her marriage counselor. He said, "Feelings follow actions." For homework, he told her and her husband to pick one physical act (like holding hands) and perform that act together multiple times each day for one solid week. In fact, he advised them to hold hands precisely at the moment when they did not want to hold hands.

Basically, fake it 'til you make it.

So, they tried it. The next week the counselor challenged them to pick something a little more physical. Like a hug. He asked them to hug, holding each other for at least 30 seconds, a few times each day. Before long, they were spontaneously holding hands and hugging and laughing and smiling. They were growing closer without even realizing it. The walls of separation crumbled to the ground.

So, the old saying is true. The more we touch, the more we want to touch. We can find that lovin' feeling again. No matter how long we're married. It's a great thing. This thing called marriage.

Now, you'll have to excuse me. I've got some hugging of my own to do. :)

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